How to have a happy holiday when spouse is in the hospital ? [Archive]

mammaduke

12-11-2007, 09:00 PM

This past week has been hard with the passing of my mother in law & today they admitted my husband in the hospital . He has internal bleeding & his blood count is so low that if he went to sleep tonight he wouldn't of woken up in the morning. They will run tests tomorrow, but I don't know if after everything this past week & half that I even want to celebrate christmas if he's not home with me.I sit there in the hospital all alone & try not to reflect on what if, but it's there.
Help me deal with this.

Sunshine73

12-11-2007, 09:16 PM

I'm so sorry that things are so rough for you this Christmas season. :( I hope that the tests show nothing serious for your DH. It is possible that it's something easily treatable (my step-father was admitted for the same reason recently and it turned out to be a weird, but very treatable reaction to medication), but I know that there's always that "what if" in the back of your mind.

Hang in there. I'm definitely saying prayers for you and your family during this difficult time.

Annette1990

12-11-2007, 09:19 PM

Wow Mammaduke when it rains it pours. I am sorry to hear this. Please try to be optimistic. Wait to see what the test results may be. I hope it all goes well for your husband (and you) and that he will get to be home for Christmas with you. It's hard to want to celebrate under these kind of circumstances. And is totally understandable if you don't end up having a big Christmas Celebration. I think if he does have to stay in the hospital for a period of time. You being with him at Christmas time would mean more to him than any gift, Christmas tree, decorations etc. Best of luck to you both...hang in there.

JOHNOR

12-12-2007, 06:41 AM

mammaduke, i am so sorry you are having such a rough time. you and your family are in my thoughts and i'm sure your mother in law is looking down and making sure your husband will be as right as rain as soon as possible. keep positive, we are all here is you need to talk. x

kelly ann

12-12-2007, 07:34 AM

Im really sorry to hear of all the nasty luck you have had lately. My thoughts are with you, we're always here if you want to talk xx

kerst

12-12-2007, 07:56 AM

Some days are cloudy and grey,
And it seems as if the rain is
Chasing all your dreams away.

So sorry, mammaduke to hear of your all troubles. There is no time for bad things to happen to us but Christmas is the worst time of the year. It makes it all so much harder to bear. Hang in there !

Maybe you can play some soft Christmas music in your husband's room or even read him some Christmas stories if he is up to it, just to keep the Christmas spirit alife but I certainly wouldn't plan too much. Take it one day at a time and enjoy those precious moments together.

officepro4u

12-12-2007, 08:17 AM

Debbie ~ you know you are in my prayers! You have been helping me through my rough time more than you know. Just knowing that you are praying for me everyday helps. Be strong and know that God is in control. His will is always done and he knows the desire of your heart. You are a light that shines bright for God, don't let it go out during difficult times. STAY STRONG sweetie!!!

Diana

morelia92

12-12-2007, 10:59 AM

You and your family are in my prayers.....

mammaduke

12-12-2007, 05:36 PM

We got the results back from the MRI, it showed nothing there so now they think he is bleeding from the colon. He's so scared as I am , after this week with his mom passing he is really down & out. He's watching Christmas shows in his room & I watch them here, so we talk durning commericals. That seems to be helping him get through this whole thing.He loves Christmas as much as I do so that helps us both through this.

novelist

12-13-2007, 08:02 AM

:-xI'm so sorry you have yet nother crisis to deal with! I don't blame you for not wanting to celebrate if your husband is not home with you. I know I would be the same way. You'll be in my prayers!

mrspenguin

12-13-2007, 03:13 PM

Sorry to hear all that. You will be in my prayers, hang in there.

mammaduke

12-13-2007, 07:33 PM

The way you have Christmas with a spouse being sick is you don't have Christmas. We can't have a Christmas until he is well. We have all decided to not celebrate christmas until he gets home .We found out he has a mass in his colon which needs to be removed. We will do everything different this year than any other year.

mammaduke

12-13-2007, 09:07 PM

My husband called me from the hospital & said we will celebrate here at home, if anyone wants to see him they can come here. It will be different since he'll be recovering from surgery, yet he wants it for me.
That's what Christmas is : Love that you feel for everyone, even when you"re down.

kerst

12-14-2007, 02:52 AM

Good for you !

Don't overdo things though; make sure he gets enough rest after the surgery. The best Christmas present will be his homecoming !

Hope all goes well with the surgery ! Will be light a special candle for you !

Becky

JOHNOR

12-14-2007, 08:01 AM

i am so pleased that he will be home for christmas, i am sure you will have a lovely time together. hopefully he is well on his way to being fit and healthy again

Holiday

12-14-2007, 10:25 AM

(((((mammaduke))))) I am so sorry to hear about your mother in law passing & your husband having problems. How stressful & worrisome. I will be praying that the mass is removed with no complications & he is back home & healthy in no time so you can all enjoy a nice Christmas.

mammaduke

12-14-2007, 09:01 PM

We met with the doctors today, he'll have surgery Tuesday morning , they'll have to remove 2/3 of his colon. They are hoping he'll be home for christmas but they aren't sure. We'll celebrate after he gets home & gets better.
They let him come home today until he has surgery on Tuesday.We are really happy about that, we get to spend time alone before he gets his operation.

mammaduke

12-15-2007, 04:35 PM

Today he wanted to wrap all the gifts that we got, so we got that all done . He really wants to be home for Christmas, if he gets out of the hospital I'll have my family here that day.:hi:

TwinkleLights25

12-16-2007, 01:56 PM

Glad they found out what was wrong and theyre going to treat it! Prayer sent!

Christmasstar

12-16-2007, 03:36 PM

no matter what day you have it on and that your husband fully recovers.

mammaduke

12-18-2007, 06:19 PM

We just found out that the mass on my husbands colon is cancerous. He was in surgery from 11:00 until 5:30, so today has been a bad day.

Maureen

12-18-2007, 06:31 PM

I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself:sparkle:

Annette1990

12-18-2007, 06:37 PM

I too am sorry to hear this Debbie. Stay strong for your husband. He needs you now more than anything. We are all here for you my friend. And remember miracles do happen. Take care.

mammaduke

12-18-2007, 07:18 PM

Thank you everyone for your support.

Sunshine73

12-18-2007, 07:42 PM

I'm so very sorry to hear the news isn't as good as we all would have hoped. :( I know that you and your DH both have a long road ahead of you with his illness and the necessary treatments, but remember that this is a road to recovery!

Meanwhile, enjoy your Christmas with your DH, wherever you may be!

mammaduke

12-18-2007, 09:32 PM

Thank you so much. We are praying everything goes good with the recovery & chemo treatments.

officepro4u

12-18-2007, 09:48 PM

mammaduke

12-18-2007, 09:54 PM

Debbie ~ you are one very strong woman!!! Take each day one at a time. Please know that I am continually praying for you and Bob.

It was great talking to you this evening even though your phone was ringing off the hook.

Remember to make some time for yourself!! You are in high demand right now and you need to take care of YOU.

Love, Diana
Thank you Diane, I felt so bad I couldn't really talk, tomorrow will be a better night. I'll call you then. You've really helped me through this whole thing & for that I can never thank you enough. You have been the rock that has helped me keep it all together, God Bless You!
Annette has been ther too & I want to thank her too as well as the other web sight we are connected to.
Love you all. Debbie

JanaBanana

12-19-2007, 08:57 AM

:( Hugs to you my friend!

novelist

12-19-2007, 02:31 PM

So sorry to hear the news about your husband. Both of you are in my prayers. Remember too, medicine has come a long way, and doctors could do more for patients these days. Take Care.

ChristmasCaz

12-19-2007, 04:27 PM

You are both in my thoughts and prayers,

mammaduke

12-20-2007, 10:08 PM

Thanks to some many people here we know how to have a Merry Christmas. It's not the gifts, food or any of this stuff. It's being with the one you love & remembering what this day is really about. Thank you so much.

mammaduke

12-21-2007, 05:54 PM

We are going to celebrate at the hospital, just Bob & I . From what we know he'll still be in there then. Right now he has an infection in his ensision & fluid in the lungs that they are trying to control. With breathing treatments.