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Welcome to our newest member, flockman02
My name is Ron, I am a Christmas nut always have been always will be. I am first and foremost a stay at home dad that has an evening job at a retail/grocery establishment. After my second son was born I stepped down from my management position, so my wife and I don't have to pay for daycare. My wife is a teacher in the town we live, so people recognize us everywhere in our little town.
My wife and I have been married for 9 years. We have 2 boys aged 6 and 3, both are young Christmas nuts.

I have loved Christmas as long as I remember
from seeing the lights on all the houses, to seeing if I could stay awake to see Santa.
Christmas has been the one constant in my life it has always been there for me, through the rough times of my parents divorce when I was 10 y/o or my mother's passing when I was 16.
Everyone always tried to make it something special for myself and sister when we were young no matter what was going on. I now believe that is why I love this time of year more than any other because of the efforts of my family to hold it above any other time of year. I get to make the season special for my boys now, whether it be by playing the music decorating the house and yard or just playing the dvd's. The memories the season has brought have always warm and it is no wonder why I look forward to making more of these memories every year. My favorite Christmas movie is A Christmas Story my favorite Christmas song is O Holy Night. My favorite Christmas artist is Bing Crosby.
Well if I ran on a little bit I am sorry I am new to blogging, it sounds always better in your mind.
I will try to keep posting and making it interesting for all who read.
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Posted 02-01-2010 at 09:54 PM by xmas365

I don't know sometimes how or what I should be doing when it comes to fatherhood.
I try to make the right decisions for my boys at all times, but sometimes I don't have the energy to be as firm as I should. My 4 y/o is a high energy, high maintenance child, all the attention is to be on him at all times, while my 1 y/o soon to be 2 y/o toddler is a toddler nuff said. They are always on the go, getting into things that they shouldn't, you know kids stuff. As I have said before I am a stay at home father first and foremost, so I am home with them 8-9 hours during the day, and I have to find the energy to go to work 6 hours a night, after my wife gets home. So by the end of the week I am burnt out, which is where the not having energy comes in.
I love my boys more than anything, but right now they are testing my patience, and I worry it is affecting my relationship with them, especially my 4 y/o. I feel the only way to get through to him is by raising my voice or yelling at him when I feel he is doing something wrong,
and I don't enforce timeout with him, I cave way to easy because of the lack of energy.
He always tells me he loves me and I tell him I love him, but I feel like I am hurting him now by not being forceful when I need to be. My wife says it seems like I don't connect with him, and I have been feeling with the same way for a while. I just don't want him to hate me when he gets older, I don't have the greatest relationship with my Dad, and the fear of my boys not having a great relationship with me when they get older strikes a nerve with me.
I just need to be sure to show him I love him and be forceful when I need to be and supportive when I have to be.
I wish I could know the right decision at all times but this is a learning experience,as is life. I am just going through a rough patch, and this blog is helping me vent my frustrations.
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